Is your child Temper Tantrums out of control? Are you a frustrated parent? Try these effective strategies for proven results.

A child throwing temper tantrums can be either a positive or negative thing. Positive if for example a child is trying to put their clothes on and shows frustration for not getting through. Negative if a child wants to manipulate his parents hence throw a tantrum to get control.

A new born baby will learn how to get attention of their mother by crying. The baby learns early that if he or she makes enough bellowing noise the mother will come and pick up the infant. Now it might just means that the baby is hungry or needs changing, but whatever the case it get’s the desired reaction.

Using temper tantrums are power plays created by the child to manipulate and force the parents to give in to their demands. This shows self-centeredness within the child and can hamper their emotional development.

When a child throws a tantrum this is a reaction of negative emotions. If this happens around friends or families we may feel embarrassed, and try to threaten the child, bribe them, or promise to comply with their demands. Good parenting skills will teach us that this strategy only encourages this behaviour.

What we need is good behaviour management techniques to help the child understands and manage their reactions and feelings. To get parents to succumb, a child will use various methods such as screaming, stomping, threatening and dragging themselves on the floor.

Using parenting with positive thinking teaches us to have a set parenting plan when dealing with temper tantrums. Since these behaviours represent an emotional display, it usually requires an audience. Here are a few steps in dealing with this behaviour:

* Totally ignore the child paying no attention to behaviour.

* Don’t even look at the child, stare in the middle distance.

* While you are ignoring the child don’t try to touch or restrain them.

* Keep a straight face even though you maybe seething inside with anger.

* Only speak to the child saying things as:” when you are quiet I will pay attention to you” in a calm, steady voice. Remember to stick to your guns and try not to get too frustrated because you will make mistakes. Be consistent with your procedure and make your child realise that their behaviour are not getting through to you and they will have your attention when they are calmer.

It is important to start discipline your child at an early age with consideration of the child’s level of understanding. Discipline is the best way of instilling a sense of responsibility into your child, teaching them what behaviour is acceptable. Allow me to quote the wisdom of the Native American Sioux Chief;

“ Training began with children who were taught to sit still and enjoy it. A child who cannot sit still is half-developed child.

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